How to overcome the feeling of insecurities

In a world that tells us that you are never enough, it is easy to lose our way and feel insecure, shaky and even struggle with self-worth. You can be confident in your daily life but still have many insecurities which come from your childhood programming or other cultural upbringing and even life experiences. Being confident doesn’t mean that you don’t feel insecure or have self-doubts. Perhaps some of these insecurities come from the voice within you that tells you that you are never enough and that you’re too fat, or too loud or too ambitious. The truth is a person can never be too much of anything!

 Here are 7 tips to remember when we struggle with insecurities:

 1. Owning yourself  

Accept asking for approval from others for what it is. We all do it and it is natural to be very aware of how others respond to us. Seek inner validation inside yourself to show you the best of who you are. It starts with the self-knowledge of who you really are as a divine creation having a human experience.

2. The ego is the one seeking validation 

Ever considered becoming friends with the ego?

Everyone has an ego, and the ego is not your enemy. When we know who we are we can consequently have a loving relationship with all parts of ourselves including the ego. Radical self-acceptance is the path to overcoming the feeling of insecurity.

3. Change your perspective 

Ask yourself – can I see the insecurity with compassion & kindness! When feeling troubled with insecurities, treat yourself as you would treat your best friend going through this same quandary. Do more of the things that make you feel good about yourself. Celebrate the sexiness, the dark side, the loud side, the ambitious sexy person that you are. Praising your own self for the good but also acknowledging and living in awareness for the not so good is key to inner confidence. 

 4. Self-love 

Self-love is not selfish, it’s a prerequisite to happiness. Loving ourselves for who we are, in our already perfect state is key. Know what makes you feel loved and practice every day. One easy tip is to start with daily affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and affirm the things you really love about yourself. It doesn’t matter how fat I am or my current relationship status I personally like to repeat “always sexy, always brilliant.”

5. It is okay to feel insecure and seek outside validation  

It is important to recognize that the opinion of others can have both a positive and a negative effect on us: it connects us to people, and if positive it can help us feel good about ourselves, but a negative remark can also leave us feeling insecure, isolated, and alone. Know the kind of energy you want in your life and create your own community of like-minded individuals. 

6. Share your story

Your insecurity is also a part of you, yet it is a story rarely told. Share your story and give voice to experiences that are all too common so that you no longer need to suffer in silence and the shame and stigma associated with being vulnerable. Your vulnerability is your greatest strength as it attracts soul connections.

7. Gratitude

Emotions are never right or wrong, they simply exist and we always need one kind of emotion to function. Treat each moment, each thought, for its brilliance, being mindful and thankful for each emotion. Self-kindness helps in overcoming insecurities and it all starts with self-knowledge and then radical self-acceptance. The more gratitude we give, the happier we feel.

Remember, our journey is not about being better than others. It is about saying goodbye to the conditioning of the world, which includes cultural, family, and even friend conditioning. This world has tried to keep us from the truth of our sexy being for too long.

You are enough as you are!

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Article contributed by Devina Kaur, Author of Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious