A mother struggles and juggles every day so effortlessly that she often forgets to focus on other things. With every passing day, the world is changing and so are the trends that affect a mother-child relationship. Today, just being a mother is not enough. You have to be your child’s best friend, sibling, therapist, literally everything.
You must be wondering why this is essential. Well in 2019, to maintain a transparent, healthy, and an effortless relationship is a challenge; however, there is an opportunity as well. This Mother’s day, here are some tips that we’ve listed for our mothers:
- Tech savvy is the new cool
Being technically sound or having basic knowledge about the same will not only help you strengthen the bond with your child but also help you learn something new. Learn how to click those selfies, do online shopping, watch programs on Netflix with your kids perhaps. Whilst monitoring your child’s activities on social media is fine, don’t make them feel uncomfortable about it. Motivate them when they exhibit their work on social media, tag them in those funny memes - keep it more engaging. The more relatable you are with today’s generation, the more they will open up to you.
- Therapy is normal
Let’s not get worked up when our kids want some ‘me-time’ or even if they ask or choose to see a therapist. Therapy is not always about a mental disorder. It is about letting out the feeling that is bothering them. And this certainly doesn’t mean you’ve failed as a mother. Listen to them, help them out, let them pour their heart out to you, understand them as an individual, not your child. That is when you’ll be their best therapist and help them overcome the situation.
- Accept their authenticity
Accept them for who they are and give them the freedom to be whoever they want to be. Let them be a tattoo artist, a stand-up comedian or even a mobile app designer. Respect their sexual preference and the identity they’re born with. Embrace it with love and encourage them to be who they want to be. Freedom starts at home.
- Participate with them
Participating with them in activities or hobbies that they love, will help you develop a better and friendlier relationship them. Draw and paint with them, enrol for dance classes together, go on a Yoga retreat, cook contemporary cuisine, travel with them, and grow together.
Kids do not learn what we say to them. They inculcate and do the things we do. Instead of teaching theoretically or asking them to Google about it, show them how something is supposed to be done. Show them how that healthy salad is made, how they should plan their investments, how to fold clothes. The more you demonstrate, the better they understand.
This Mother’s day, let’s take the bond forward from mere mother-child to Best Friends. We wish all you wonderful mothers, a very Happy Mother’s Day. Thank you for being you.
This article has been contributed by Krupa Shah- an acclaimed virtuoso Indian contemporary artist who heads Krupa Arts. She has been an active member of FICCI, All Ladies League and Women Economic Forum. With commendable on-ground work and relentless contribution to the field of art - Krupa has earned both, rewards and awards.